Have you ever been on dates where you just ran out of topics quickly and sat there, sipping wine and feeling like an idiot?
Well, we’ve all been there. We bet it was so awkward and nerve-wracking that you even started thinking that you’re a boring person.
But when this happens, it oftentimes has to do a lot with the extreme amount of stress we experience on first days. It’s natural for both men and women.
When our bodies are in a stressful situation, the brain usually refuses to listen to you, and you experience what we call ‘your brain shutting down’.
So even if you have a cool story or two in your memory storage, it’ll be quite challenging to procure them in a stressful situation, such as a first date with a hot girl.
But if overcoming stress on first dates doesn’t do the trick for you, you might want to become more interesting. Easier said than done, right? Well, not really.
All it requires you to do to impress women with your verbal skills and fascinating stories and jokes is to make a few lifestyle changes.
Be Curious and Explore the World
The key to success on first days is sparking curiosity in your partner.
And you can’t possibly spark that curiosity if all you do is sit around at home 24/7 playing videogames, or all you care about is your job (which is, by the way, boring), or your only interest in life is working out like a gym rate.
It may sound cliché, but it’s true nonetheless: you have to be curious about the world.
Whether it means traveling, trying out new experiences like skiing or diving, exploring different cultures and food cuisines or even driving your car all across the country – we don’t care what this is (whatever won’t get you bored quickly), you have to explore the world.
Be active and curious – socialize – learn – eat food – sleep. Repeat.
If you have stories to share about you traveling all over the world, it immediately makes you seem like an attractive person on first dates.
Unless, of course, you interrupt your date and don’t listen to her just because you feel the urge to share 20 stories of you crossing the ocean, traveling stories give you an edge on first dates.
Multiple studies have shown that people who talk about their traveling experience tend to be viewed more favorable than those who’d rather talk about their job.
It also lets your date know that you’re passionate about exploring the world – and what girl doesn’t want to date a man passionate about traveling?
Build Your Character
What we mean is understanding what you’re really passionate about life. It can be having a hobby, reading books or even simply watching movies.
Listen, if you watch like 3-4 movies every week, you’ll definitely have stuff to talk about on dates. However, don’t risk overdoing it, as it’ll look as if your entire life revolves around fictional stories.
Find yourself a hobby, read books, watch news, learn about the world and universe, go out different places and meet new people – do the things that build your character.
Learn Jokes and Have a Good Sense of Humor
No matter how fascinating your traveling stories are or how passionate about life you are, you risk being seen as boring if you don’t have a good sense of humor.
When you talk about things, it’s vital to insert jokes every now and then instead of talking with a deadpan on your face, as you might seem like a crazy sexy Latin women to your date (which, we are sure, is not the case!).
Sip some wine and joke about things. If you think your sense of humor is not up to first-date standards, you might want to learn a few jokes beforehand to impress the dreamed lady.
Anything light, not humiliating and gross will do. It can be either you showing that you can laugh at your own mistakes or you telling funny stories.
Never go for the corny, stupid jokes. They make you look pathetic.
Listen to Her
Remember the rule: the conversation on first dates has to be 50/50 between you and her. It’s about you finding out things about her, and her finding out things about you.
If she’s a shy girl and barely says anything, you might want to take a lead and start the conversation by either telling a short story or telling about yourself a little bit.
That’s enough to shift your attention onto her and ask her something. It doesn’t matter if she gives you one-two-word answers, as you need to cling onto her every word to find out more.
It’s the art of listening and developing a conversation. You must be able to be a good listener for your date, and really – REALLY – express genuine curiosity when your date is talking.