How to Avoid ChnLove Dating Scams And Fraud
International dating services helping men find Chinese girls for marriage are highly popular, and with so many men looking for love overseas, it’s not surprising that a handful of them run into scams and dishonest practices. Luckily, with a few tips and some common sense, traps set by these scammers are easy to spot and avoid, letting you focus your energy on achieving your real goal: finding true love.
Probably the most common trick used by scammers these days is asking for money or a loan. Clearly, they will not be so obvious and request cash during your first conversation, but after you have exchanged a few letters or chatted for a while and have built a decent rapport, a scammer will find some excuse to borrow money, maybe temporarily or for an emergency. This is a red flag, and you should never send money to someone overseas who you have not met in person.
Another popular scam is quite similar. After a very short time, scammers or dishonest ladies will begin to ask gentlemen to purchase expensive gifts for them, like luxury watches or jewelry. Of course, I’m not talking about buying your lady a box of chocolates, but something very pricey like designer clothes and perfume or even cars. Ladies who are interested in a relationship will not require you to buy them a lot of fancy gifts, so if she asks for something that costs more than $200, you should think carefully.
Another sign that the lady might be looking for something other than a meaningful relationship is she refuses to meet you in person. To be fair, different people have different comfort levels regarding how long to wait before meeting in person, and it also depends on the frequency and quality of your correspondences. But in general, 3 to 4 months is reasonable to feel comfortable meeting face-to-face. So if she’s clearly avoiding this issue, then something is wrong. You can even ask a lady her comfort level in this regard early in the relationship: “how long would you like to correspond with someone before meeting them in person?” is a reasonable question.
The last point to talk about is really not a scam, but can certainly feel like one to Western men if they are not aware and get caught off guard. Chinese girls looking for marriage may heavily rely on local dating agencies for help and agree to pay a “success fee” to the agency if she finds a man and gets married. Since you’ll be the one marrying her, in effect, she has agreed that YOU will pay a success fee to the agency. Technically, she is the one responsible for paying it, but in China the husband usually is expected to pay the bill. So, once your relationship gets serious with a lady, you should ask her if she has any such agreement with the agency, and if so what are the details.
In fact, with increased security and improved screening procedures, the number of these cases has dropped dramatically since online dating first grew in popularity over 10 years ago. Chances are you’ll never encounter any of the problems above on ChnLove, but it never hurts to be prepared.