A kiss is just a kiss— except in China and Chnlove! No social kissing whatsoever. Nor do they shake hands socially to say hello or goodbye, but rather nod their heads and smile. So exactly what is the protocol regards kissing in Chinese culture? Even nowadays any public display of affection; including holding hands, hugging and kissing are frowned upon very strongly in China. So where, when and how exactly can you kiss a Chinese woman?
Chinese culture simply decrees that people don’t kiss each other and so they conform and basically refrain from kissing. The exception to this readily accepted credence is for married couples within the privacy if their own bed. And of course very young children may be kissed but even then very little physical validation is offered to youngsters.
Just how deeply does being shamed run regarding public affection and kissing? Sadly lots of young Chinese women have committed suicide due to intense feelings of shame if caught kissing publicly. One such young lady took her own life because a neighbor saw her boyfriend kiss her gently on the forehead and then told everyone that she was a bad woman. Sadly the girl was shattered believing she had brought such shame to her family despite having done absolutely nothing wrong at all. It’s best to understand that the cultural pressure on Chinese women to not show any public affection, especially kissing is immense often with heavy consequences for breaking traditional protocol.
Do Chinese Girls Actually Like Kissing?
Yes. Apparently they do but since it is so frowned up to the point of bringing shame to one’s family, many Chinese women do not have much experience with basic affection, let alone the art of kissing. Chinese women are also generally reserved and shy in nature when dating. It often takes a great deal of patience and empathy when starting a relationship with your lovely Chinese lady.
There is every chance that your gorgeous Chinese woman will love to kiss you and be kissed passionately but never in public. Affection and intimacy including kissing, in Chinese culture is primarily reserved for the sanctity of marriage. She may even expect you to delay any form of intimacy with very little, if any affection at all until the wedding. You can suggest that you marry in China instead of upon your return home to the west.
Showing Public Affection & Kissing Your Chinese Girl
If you decide to kiss a Chinese woman keep the following tips in mind so as not to offend and/or cause embarrassment for her, her family or yourself. Keep in mind that Chinese girls are traditionally submissive and shy regards showing affection, especially in public.
If you do want to show affection; try holding hands as many are happy to do this. Still want to kiss your Chinese woman in public or private? It’s always best to ask her how she feels about it. Of course public or private affection assumes you have attained a sufficient level of closeness that would progress as such. Very small, quick affectionate pecks are safest publicly and never pull her head towards yours.
It’s wise and respectful to save any deep passionate kissing for when you are alone together. However chances are she will make you wait until you are officially engaged or even married for such an intimate kiss. But then again; sometimes even Chinese girls behave differently behind closed doors and away from societal scrutiny.